Friday, December 31, 2010

A Resolution of Sorts

Today is New Year’s Eve, which means Saturday is New Year’s Day, which means Resolutions, which means… What?

What does that mean? What does it mean to make a Resolution? Webster’s defines it this way.

Definition of RESOLUTION

1: the act or process of resolving
a : the act of analyzing a complex notion into simpler ones
b : the act of answering : SOLVING
c : the act of determining

I like that the first definition says process. So I am going to tweak it a bit to say, It is a process of analyzing, answering and determining. Key word again, is PROCESS.

It is not an impulsive proclamation with instantaneous results, as we tend to view it. It is a process. A process takes time.

Too often, New Year’s Eve rolls around and we make unreasonable and unattainable resolutions out of a sense of desperation or tradition. Even as we make these resolutions, we know they will fail. There is really no genuine intention to succeed, but rather only a vague glimmer of intention.

What then, is the point?

If this has been your pattern I am going to challenge you to do something different this year. I am challenging you to engage in the process of changing those things in your life that need changing.

Since this is a marriage and sex blog that is going to be my primary focus here.

In the following weeks I will be posting questions, ideas and talking points for you and your spouse to talk over and consider. Topics of discussion that will hopefully open the doors of communication and of course build intimacy.

Please join me in 2011 as we Resolve to Work Toward a Better Marriage, Have Sexier Sex, and Grow in Intimacy with our Spouse.

Now, let’s end this year with something Naughty

One of the things I plan to talk about in the weeks to come is spicing up your sex life. Tonight, take a risk. Do something a little edgy! Try one of the positions from the Naughty Nights posts, or rock out a quickie before you go out. Better still, have sex multiple times tonight!! Whatever you do, mix it up a bit.

Happy New Year ~
Spicy B


Tom said...

Just found your blog.


I can't wait to read more of your posts! Keep them coming...

I RESOLVE to follow you - you're truly inspiring

SpicyB said...

Awesome! I'm delighted that you found us, and are inspired. I'm still new to the blogging world, so I appreciate the support.